What did he do to her in 50 Shades of GREY?

Fifty Shades of Grey also has this weird perspective where they see the submissive side of BDSM as total martyrdom, letting yourself be hurt to bring the other person pleasure. But… people are turned on by submission too. A lot of people. BDSM is about finding people who are turned on by power and domination and pairing them with people who are turned on by obedience and pain. If it doesn’t turn Anastasia on, she shouldn’t do it. Period. BDSM isn’t a sacrifice that she should be making for free cars. At one point she literally asks, “What do I get out of it?” And Christian Grey goes, “Me.” That is not the correct answer at all! At that point, he should have sat her down and said, “Oh, this is actually supposed to be pleasurable for both parties, and we should talk about things that turn you on in order to make this satisfying all around.” Sex shouldn’t be a thing she has to endure in order to spend time with him. He shouldn’t be blackmailing her with their relationship to get to whip her. But that’s what he does! And it’s very weird!

So it’s strange that neither of them seems aware that there are people who enjoy being submissives in BDSM relationships, but it’s also strange that the climax (sorry) of this movie comes about when she asks him to spank her, and he does, and then she freaks out. Anastasia literally asks Christian to spank her because she wants to feel what turns him on, the thing that drives him. He tells her he is going to spank her with a flogger six times. He spanks her with a flogger six times. And then Ana becomes furious and kink-shames him all over the place saying things like, “This is what you like??? This is what turns you on??? Hurting me??? Seeing me like this!?!?!?”